Showing posts with label emotions. Show all posts
Showing posts with label emotions. Show all posts

Sunday, May 8, 2011

Living Between a Heritage and a Legacy

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The following is my tribute to my mother-in-law, a mom living between her heritage and her legacy. As we celebrate Mother’s Day, I thought that this would be a fitting entry.

You see, my mother-in-law is a woman who has impacted my life in a great way. Over the course of the last 16 years that I have known her, she has taught me much. Over the course of the last couple of years, we have learned much together as we spent many hours caring for Tiffany and simply enjoying life as a family. In the last year, my love and respect for my mother-in-law has grown even more as I have watched her live through a very difficult time of life as she experienced the death of her daughter and her mom within six weeks of each other. Within six weeks her legacy and her heritage came together in Heaven. 

The Heritage that she had in her mother is a rich heritage. Her mother was a kind and gracious woman who passed on to my mother-in-law many of the needed traits she would need to live through the life that God had called her to live. She was faithful to her God, her husband, and her family throughout her life. She was a genteel woman who graciously served her God and her family. It is a Heritage worth emulating and a Heritage that should never be forgotten. 

The Legacy that she has in her daughter is an unfathomable legacy. By that it is one that is hard to understand. Usually your legacy is what you leave behind once you are gone, but Mom’s legacy went ahead to glory first. Although we all make our own decisions, one’s children many times is an indictment upon you. Mom’s legacy, my wife, is an indictment that speaks volumes about my mother-in-law. I got to see up close the impact that Tiffany’s mom had upon her life and how she lived with Cystic Fibrosis. Tiffany’s desire to not quit, to not make excuses, to trust in God, to keep living, to invest in the eternal, to pursue excellence, to love music, to love her husband and her family, and her gracious spirit towards people and life’s difficulties is a legacy to the life of my mother-in-law. It reveals a woman who lived that out in front of Tiffany through it all. Tiffany and I in the last couple years of her life would often laugh about how much she was becoming her mom whether it was how she wrote, spoke, or viewed life. Many fear that their wife may become their mother-in-law--Me, I welcomed it!

So Mom, on this day that you remember your Heritage and your Legacy, know that you have forever changed my life. I am privileged to have walked this way with you. I love you and am thankful that today I can say Happy Mother’s Day as your Heritage and your Legacy are getting to worship our Savior face to face. Although they are not with us today, they are with the King of kings. Your Heritage will never be forgotten and your Legacy will always be loved!

Sunday, February 7, 2010

The value of emotional support….
My brother came out for a couple of days. What a help he was. Just having someone to be here makes me feel safe. He took care of some house stuff for me, chauffeured me around to various commitments, but most of all it was just his quiet presence that brought calm. Thanks bro!

Feb 3

Maiden Voyage…
Ok, ok it does seem a little dramatic. However, this is a first for us as hubby is gone for a while, I am on IV’s and this round is a doosy. There is much to think through in a circumstance like this. Who checks on you-does someone stay or just drop in every now and then. What about meals-I find can handle the dosing side of things, but getting good food and laundry and house upkeep-those are the extras that slip. What info needs to go to whom-contact info, emergency info-is there a list of meds-can my folks get in touch w/ someone here-can that someone get to me easily. Wheww….my brain is spinning just typing these. Thankfully, my church family is ready and willing to step in and do whatever/whenever (the key is that I need to ask). My brother is able to come and stay w/ me for a couple of days….that’s huge! So, we have embarked, we will see what this journey holds. Good thing I know the One that is already in the midst of it and navigating every part!

Feb 2

Stresss…..
Yes that wonderful word. I don’t know that I fully comprehend the role that stress plays on my health. I am finding that it is more than I would like to admit.

As one who is not really "put it all out there" as far as getting rid of stress-I find that I internalize it a lot which in turn results in stressing my body and thus, my health.

I will have to do some thinking on effective ways that I can deal healthily with this.